In The Princess Bride, the criminal genius Vizzini repeatedly and inappropriately exclaims, “Inconceivable.” His partner Inigo Montoyo finally reflects, “You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.”

Like that criminal genius, Christians use religious jargon repeatedly and inappropriately. Sometimes I want to respond, “I do not think it means what you think it means.

I struggle with the phrase, “wrestling with God.” Christians use it to describe an intentional long night of interceding with God. The phrase refers to Jacob wrestling with God (Gen. 32:22-31). We use it the wrong way; I want to reply, “Stop saying that!”

I used to work in a ministry with a man who loved the phrase. If the finances were low, he’d demand an evening bout of wrestling with God. When the congregation failed to follow the message, he’d insist on an upper room experience battling with God.

My friend used the phrase as though we needed to get God’s attention, as though we needed to place a shot over God’s bow. We’d argue with God, make our pitch, and try to persuade him of our plans. Maybe we’d fast or lie prostrate.

It reminded me of the priests of Baal as they cut themselves on Mt. Carmel (1 Kings 18). I wish I’d said to my friend, “I do not think it means what you think it means.

It may sound noble or heroic, but an African American preacher understood it better when he preached, “Your arm’s too short to box with God!”

It distorts our relationship with God

The word “wrestle” is a fighting term, a coercive attempt to force one’s will on another. It happens with little kids fighting over a toy, with adults quarreling over finances, and with countries battling for rule of natural resources.

The term, “wrestling with God” creates the image of a battle of wills: our will or God’s. We wrestle with God because we know what needs to happen, and we are pretty sure God will get it wrong. We need to persuade him, maybe pressure or bully him.

Do we really think Jacob challenged God with, “You killed my father. Prepare to die.”

It corrupts our image of God

The idea of wrestling  with God twists our image of God, turning him into some kind of evil enemy.  We are the good guys—knowing exactly what needs to happen, and God is the bad guy—withholding his grace and power. All we need to do is impose our will on his will.

Then everything will be all right (just like all the other times we got our way?). We need to remember: If you rush a miracle man, you get rotten miracles.

Besides … Jacob? Really?

If we ever wished to imitate a hero of the faith, would any of us pick Jacob? Few other characters in scripture embody so little character.

Jacob’s entire life is a public display of coercion, conniving, and deceiving. He cheats his brother; he deceives his father; he neglects his wife; he swindles his father-in-law; and he criminally abuses his children through favoritism.

His entire life is a struggle for dominance, imposing his will with ill regard for justice or the rights of others. He is the ultimate, coercive, self-centered War Lord; but we try to be like him as we “wrestle with God.” We’ve got to stop saying that.

Besides

Jacob’s night of wrestling is symbolic for Jacob’s entire life spent wrestling with God. Jacob consciously pitted his will against everyone else’s will; subconsciously he pitted his will against God’s.

Dissatisfied with God’s plan for his life, Jacob bullied, battled, and boxed his way through life. All the while he was ultimately battling God. Oswald Chambers says,

If you ever wrestle with God, you will be crippled for the rest of your life. If you grab hold of God … simply because He is working in a way that doesn’t meet with your approval, you force Him to put you out of joint (My Utmost for His Highest).

Battling with God puts a damper on our relationship.

So what are we to do?

Instead of wrestling against God, let’s wrestle before him. Wrestling against God makes him our adversary; wrestling before God makes him our coach.

God is the only one who knows what we need when we need it, and he knows how to deliver. Wrestling with God is our way of saying we knew what we need when we need it. If we want to live that way, we should probably get used to disappointment.

Coming before God and wrestling with the issues—marriage difficulties or financial trouble—grants God the authority to coach us. (We may think our problem is a need for money; God may be teaching us to trust him.) Wrestling before God means we acknowledge our primary need is his will, especially when it differs from our own.

Jacob begins to understand this when he prays,

I’m unworthy of all your gracious love, your faithfulness, and everything that you’ve done for your servant …  Deliver me from my brother Esau’s control, because I’m terrified of him, and I fear that he’s coming to attack me.

Wrestling before God teaches Jacob Grace. He says, “I’m unworthy,” and then he asks for God’s help anyway. All our troubles come from false beliefs about God: Is he an adversary or a coach? Is he out to get us, or is he out to get good for us?

If we imitate Jacob in any way at all, let’s do it this way: let’s admit we need grace and let’s believe God is full of grace.

It’s time to say, “As you wish.” Wrestling with God so that our will prevails is …  “Inconceivable.”

I mean it.

Sam

© 2013 Beliefs of the Heart

I’ve been intrigued by the phrase “noble simplicity and quiet grandeur” which was used by the German art historian Johann Jachim Winckelmann describing the Greek aesthetic.  (I don’t want to sound like something I’m not – an intellectual and a broad-reader.  I ran across this expression on the Internet as I was researching the word “noble”.)

To live a life of “noble simplicity and quiet grandeur” seems right and true.  For, it is the man or woman with “a noble and good heart, who…produce a crop.” (Luke 8:15)  We are to live in “simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ.” (2 Cor. 11:3)  We are to be “a display of God’s splendor.” (Isa. 61:3)  And, we are to “be completely humble, gentle and patient…” (Eph. 4:1,2)

A life of “noble simplicity and quiet grandeur” stated another way would be:  A life that is magnificent (lofty) and yet unpretentiousness (genuine), majestic (splendid) and yet unobtrusive (humble).

This is the life that you and I, as those who have been restored and released by the work of Christ, have been given.  But, it is not the life that this world values and therefore it must be battled for.  As Paul disclosed, “I press on (strenuously pursue) to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.”  (Phil. 3:12)  In other words, living this life of “noble simplicity and quiet grandeur” is hard-won.  Why?

Because, we are up against so much resistance to this authentic life, this pilgrim’s life which is characterized as traveling lightly with great purpose.

We encounter the vastness and complexity of life.

We encounter the expectations, demands and verdicts on us by our culture.

We encounter the overwhelming needs that surround us.

Thomas Merton wrote, “To allow oneself to be carried away by a multitude of conflicting concerns, to surrender to too many demands, to commit to too many projects, to want to help everyone in everything is itself to succumb to the violence of our times. Frenzy…destroys the fruitfulness of our work, because it kills the root of inner wisdom which makes work fruitful.”

Perhaps the greatest assault against us living this life is the belief that we hold deeply in our heart about who we are, what we have to offer and how life works.  This belief or image that has been formed over decades of interaction with our world has everything to do with the type of life we choose to live; in other words the plan that we form of how we will interact with our world.  Prov. 20:5 says that “a plan in the heart of a man is like deep water, but a man of understanding draws it out.

Years ago I asked God to reveal to me what I truly believed about myself since He knows my heart better than me.  Instantly, Radar O’Reilly in the TV series M.A.S.H. came to mind and it made complete sense.  You see, Radar O’Reilly was accepted in the “player’s circle” because he could do things for them.  He was needed for what he could do, not wanted for who he was; which had become my personal philosophy – the life-plan which had been scratched into my heart over the years.  Therefore, my life was filled with trying to prove myself and earn my way into relational and work circles through carrying heavier loads and working longer hours.  It was not a life of “noble simplicity and quiet grandeur”, but rather to have “succumb to the violence of our times” as Merton wrote.

Paul said that we can “exchange the truth of God for a lie” (Rom. 1:25) which is exactly what I had done because the lie remained in darkness unaddressed.

I confessed my accepting / agreeing with this lie, renouncing it and announcing the truth of scripture about my life.

Jesus said, “If you continue in My word, then you are truly disciples of Mine; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” (John 8:31)

Peter wrote, “I will always be ready to remind you of these things, even though you already know them, and have been established in the truth which is present with you… to stir you up by way of reminder.”  (2 Peter 1:12)

Paul admonishes us to “stand firm therefore, having girded your loins with truth” (Eph. 6: 14)

Let us strenuously pursue this magnificent (lofty) and yet unpretentiousness (genuine), majestic (splendid) and yet unobtrusive (humble) life God has given us and called us to – that we my alter the world.

Your friend and ally,

Gary