What do we do when we have been betrayed (or at least it feels like it) by a friend or a ministry – when our whole world has been shaken?
Paul tells us, “See to it that you do not refuse Him who speaks…’Once more I will shake not only the earth but also the heavens.’ …the removing of what can be shaken—that is, created things—so that what cannot be shaken may remain.” (Hebrews 12:26-27)
Typically, our initial response with painful lose is to “put the pieces back together”, but here we are admonished to leave on the ground whatever is shaken off (detached) and embrace what God is revealing as the truest parts of our life.
As C.S. Lewis said, “Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.”
To do this, I believe there are several things we must do:
Right Your Heart, Not The Wrong (the kingdom inside)
Focus on the condition of your heart vs. the conundrum of the betrayal.
“We have little control over the circumstances of life. We can’t control the weather or the economy, and we can’t control what other people say about or do to us. There is only one area where we have control–we can rule the kingdom inside. The heart of every problem is the problem in the heart.” Warren Wiersbe
Don’t Be Naive Or Cynical About The Power of Sin (genuine faith vs. naïve optimism)
“At first glance, genuine faith and naïve optimism appear identical since both foster confidence and hope. But the similarity is only surface deep. Genuine faith comes from knowing my heavenly Father loves, enjoys, and cares for me. Naïve optimism is groundless. It is childlike trust without the loving Father. Optimism rooted in the goodness of people collapses when it confronts the dark side of life. Shattered optimism sets us up for the fall into defeated weariness and, eventually, cynicism.” Paul Miller
Look For What God Is Up Too (the story the Father is weaving)
Joseph factored God’s Providence into his pain. Many long years after his brothers sold him into slavery, Joseph looked into their anxious eyes and said, “It was not you who sent me here, but God.” (Gen. 45:8)
“The cure for cynicism is to become like a little child again. Instead of critiquing others’ stories, watch the story our Father is weaving.” Paul Miller
Connect, Don’t Isolate (don’t let pain be the choreographer)
The natural reaction to pain is to pull away from it’s source which, in the case of betrayal (or the sense of it), is people. Deep, meaningful, Godly friendship is what we need, especially in a time like this. We must be prayerfully discerning about who we share our heart and story with.
Shortly after my experience of friendship betrayal, God drew my attention to two pictures on my bookshelf. One was a print by G. Harvey, of 4 cowboys crossing a river on horseback.
Another was a picture postcard by Wayne Cooper, of an Indian Chief alone on his horse in full war-dress focused on something in the far distance.
After gazing at these two pictures, God asked me which I wanted. I wanted the camaraderie I once had in the earlier days. As I expressed this to God, He said to me, “then go get it.” This saved my life and ministry.
My desire and the mission of The Noble Heart is that you not be sidelined discovering, deepening and deploying your calling – the life you were created to live that bring life to others.
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